I am 32 years old. I have four kids. They are between the ages of 5 and 12. I’m trying my hardest to raise them to be kind, strong-minded, honest and responsible individuals. Something that doesn’t really seem to exist anymore.
I get really frustrated when I look around at today’s younger generations. They are all zombified, brainless tech addicts who are well, to be frank – a bunch of over sensitive pussies. What is happening? Why is there a total and complete lack of parenting going on these days? Kids are rude, they have this sense of entitlement and this insatiable need for instant gratification. I hate that. I just want to scream “GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELF!!!”
There is absolutely nothing on God’s green Earth that makes you any more special than anyone else. Whatever happened to teaching our kids the value of equality and kindness. It doesn’t matter if someone is rich, poor, black, white, smart or handicapped – teach your bloody kids to be kind and equal to everyone, regardless. And quit making them think they’re so damn special or better than everyone else, they’re not! They are no different from anyone else on this planet.
And for the love of …. teach your kids more than how to search Google for the latest new trends. Holy crap!!! When my 10-year-old step-daughter moved in with us, she didn’t even know how to use a can opener! I was floored and I was actually very saddened by this. She was never taught to do anything for herself. She was helpless. WAS. She’s learning how to take care of herself now and she’s happy and getting stronger every day.
My kids are limited to an hour a day of technology. We have rules in this house and if they don’t abide, they get punished. They understand that some times we win and sometimes we lose. They are open and honest with us and understand that we are here to help them and guide them.
The only thing I really press is the complete and utter understanding of the importance of having inner peace and happiness. Makes me sound like a hippie-mom, doesn’t it? Well, I see it this way… if you want your child to focus in school, or be responsible, or be trustworthy… first, they need to be happy. Happy children become healthy, happy adults.
So does this mean they get whatever they want? Oh hellll no! If they want something (ie. a new game for the PS4) they have to work for it. They have to do extra chores to earn an allowance, they are encouraged to find new ways and to think outside the box in order to earn money. My oldest son, (then age 6) had his first lemonade stand. My step-daughter this year wants to make bracelets and sell them. They are learning the value of the almighty dollar while understanding the value of work and responsibility.
Start talking to your kids again!!! Holy cow batman!!! No one really TALKS to their children anymore. I’m not just talking “how was your day” – I’m talking deep, meaningful conversations. Ok, so this might not be possible if your child is under the age of 8 – but if they are older than that – TALK TO YOUR KIDS! Learn how they are feeling, tell them about the world, ask them questions. Get them involved and get them to really think and talk from the heart. This creates an air of openness and honesty for them. Stop sugar-coating everything for them when YOU talk to them. Be honest and be real, they will appreciate things a lot more that way.
One thing that really turned things around for me is when my stepdaughter moved in. She and I had one of those deep, meaningful conversations where she admitted that she couldn’t cope with reality and that she preferred to live in her head, in a fantasy world. This brought up a REALLY HUGE red flag in me. She can’t cope with reality. Most kids these days are much like her. Parents are setting their children up for failure.
Kids need to know that perfection doesn’t actually exist. They will never be perfect. Nothing in nature is perfect. The idea of perfection is a man-made concept. IT DOES NOT EXIST! Why do kids not know this?!?
I almost feel bad for kids these days. They are not given what they need to succeed. We throw them into a classroom and force them to conform to a standard of testing which tells them if they are smart or not.
Albert Einstein said it best “if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
I like to say “What’s good for the goose is NOT always good for the gander.” We need to realize that every child is different in how they learn and as parents we need to find out what that way is and empower our children. We need to stop relying on “the system” to raise our children. Take back the reins and start raising your own children again. Be a part of there lives more. Disconnect them from technology and teach them how to communicate again.
We need to teach our kids to be strong-minded. To be able to take criticism and stop getting offended over every single thing. We need to teach them that good things come in time and that we need to stop relying on instant gratification. We need to teach our kids how to use their imaginations again, how to be curious and to want to explore their worlds… and not the worlds they find on PS4. We need to teach our kids to be happy and to always strive to be a better person. How to be strong yet kind. How to be honest yet considerate.
We need to teach our kids to stop being such goddamn pussies!! Empower your children and stop being a lazy parent. Stop letting the computer raise your child, stop letting social media and magazines define how your child feels about themselves.
We need to raise our children to think for themselves and be strong and happy people because no one else is going to do it for them and they don’t know how to teach themselves. We live with what we know… and this day and age – they only know how to be over sensitive pussies!