When I listen to clients who are struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues, there is (every single time, without fail) always the same two denominators. A negative mind and the inability to let go of the past.
Now, I get it. I’ve been there. I understand what it’s like. However, then there is this…
“You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.”
“You cannot move forward if you’re always looking back.”
I love thought provoking and inspirational quotes, but the two above are insanely accurate. They are both so legitimately true, I can’t begin to explain.
These two common denominators are quite literally what decides your fate. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again… You are what you think.
The only way to move forward, to be happy in life is to stay positive and always stay either in the present or the near future.
Why not just focus on the future? Well, fact is, thoughts of the future can be scary and overwhelming. This can cause more harm than good. You want to stay in the present or near future, thinking only of them baby steps.
Baby steps is the key. When you finally decide that you’re done with feeling trapped inside your own mind, when you’re truly ready to break free – you absolutely have to begin with baby steps. We’ve all heard the saying “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Nor will your mindset change in a day.
Anger, pessimism, and negativity are actually psychologically addictive. Once you start, it’s damn hard to stop. The only person or thing in this big beautiful world who can make you stop… Is YOU!
I know, I know… If you’re suffering from mental health problems or a psychological addiction to negativity you’re sitting there thinking “Ya, easy for you to say, you’re not the one suffering!” You’re absolutely right! However, keep in mind I’m coming from almost 20 years of depression, a diagnosis of bipolar type II, a multitude of suicide attempts, a diagnosis of SAD, a psychological addiction to negativity and yes, even heavy substance abuse. I’ve BEEN where you are. I know EXACTLY how you feel. And that is also why I can tell you damn well that this absolutely fucking works! I absolutely know what I’m talking about and I absolutely know it can be done.
I’m not a psych nor am I a doctor. I’m a coach, I coach people because unlike most doctors and psychs, I’ve been there, I know exactly how it feels, and I want to help as many people as I can to break through because I know for a fact that it is completely possible… You just have to quite literally choose happiness.
Until next time.