Yesterday, I was winding down from a long day – I was sitting on my bed fiddling my blog when all of a sudden my daughter comes storming into the house calling for me. She was panicked, I could tell by her voice. She bolted up the stairs and came into my bedroom “I really need your help! Alex is at it again!” She explained to me her end of the story, basically one of the kids in the neighborhood is a real piece of work. He’s highly disturbed, he’s got severe anger issues, he’s a pathological liar and the bullies the other kids in our neighborhood.
This kid is 10 years old.
As my daughter explained her side of the story she began to cry. Granted she’s over-sensitive and will cry at the drop of a dime, I sat there – listened to her – then explained to her…
People are cruel. People, everywhere, are hurting. It’s more prevalent now than ever before. Yes, he said some pretty cruel things, but he didn’t say anything that is true. He knew how to push your buttons to upset you. In his eyes, he won. He is the victor because he upset you and made you cry. Yes, words can hurt – but you have to learn to pick your battles and then let them go.
This 10-year-old boy has got a hard lined path to prison the way he’s going. I’m not even exaggerating. I’ve personally had issues with this child last year – he completely lost his shit on me after I attempted to stop him from drowning my friend’s son in the local public pool. His mother doesn’t care. I’ve had to speak with her on multiple occasions because of her son’s behavior. She knows he’s a messed up kid, but she does nothing to help him. She sides with him no matter what — even when we have the proof (via camera phones) that her kid is lying through his teeth.
This made me think about how badly we tend to treat others, how easily feelings get hurt these days, and how personally we tend to take things. How insulted we get over someone else’s perception or words….
We cannot dwell on the hurtful things other people say to us. We must keep in mind that the hurtful things they say is a reflection of them and should have very little impact on you – regardless of how cold and callous their words were.
Focusing on the words and thoughts of others will only bring you down. It does not matter what others say about you or thinks about you. What matters is what you say and think about yourself. We are our own worst enemies – but if we nourish and cherish ourselves, we can also become our own best friends.
Don’t take your anger out on other people. It’s unfortunate that many people don’t know how to cope with their emotions anymore, but this is the world we live in now. The best thing we can do is to just let it go. Life will always try to tear you down, we don’t need the people around us trying to do the same.
We used to grow up saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” … Oh my, how the times have changed. Now, words seem to hurt more than broken bones, and it seems they take longer to heal as well.
Don’t let others bring you down. Your happiness does not depend on what others think of you. Remember this… always!
Until Next Time!